Comments on: Multiple Personality Disorder http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/ Logical musings of an absurd mind Sat, 22 Nov 2008 11:14:56 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=abc By: snigdha http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-238 snigdha Thu, 19 Jun 2008 09:01:46 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-238 3 cheers to M and V also please, :-P and all the Metrosexual men. 3 cheers to M and V also please, :-P and all the Metrosexual men.

]]> By: snigdha http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-237 snigdha Thu, 19 Jun 2008 08:59:07 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-237 Awwww how sweet is that, M cooking for his beloved :-P Once in a while you can blog about him also. What all does he do for you, what all does he cook, you know a sneak peek into your life :-D I hope our dear "M" wont find. Awwww how sweet is that, M cooking for his beloved :-P
Once in a while you can blog about him also. What all does he do for you, what all does he cook, you know a sneak peek into your life :-D
I hope our dear “M” wont find.

]]> By: felinemusings http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-236 felinemusings Thu, 19 Jun 2008 06:12:49 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-236 @Snigs: I do feel like a Balaji bahu once in a while ;-) like so many other Indian married women! Ur right when you say that I need a reality check big time and I do hope I am able to initiate and succeed in my inner revelation and healing. M as usual has been very kind and considerate. He made dinner yesterday as I had a late evening concall. Today also I have a late evening concall and he offered to make dinner today; and we had bread and omelettes for breakfast so that we cld squeeze in more yoga time. Three cheers to M - MY METROSEXUAL MAN :-)who also sportingly takes my crib blogs in his stride!!!! @Snigs: I do feel like a Balaji bahu once in a while ;-) like so many other Indian married women! Ur right when you say that I need a reality check big time and I do hope I am able to initiate and succeed in my inner revelation and healing. M as usual has been very kind and considerate. He made dinner yesterday as I had a late evening concall. Today also I have a late evening concall and he offered to make dinner today; and we had bread and omelettes for breakfast so that we cld squeeze in more yoga time. Three cheers to M - MY METROSEXUAL MAN :-)who also sportingly takes my crib blogs in his stride!!!!

]]> By: snigdha http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-235 snigdha Thu, 19 Jun 2008 06:00:42 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-235 On 2nd thought, Indian Bahu is a nice thing to do only if you expect your home to be a Balaji Tele serial Set up. :-P On 2nd thought, Indian Bahu is a nice thing to do only if you expect your home to be a Balaji Tele serial Set up. :-P

]]> By: snigdha http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-234 snigdha Thu, 19 Jun 2008 05:56:21 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-234 I can understand. Its so nice to hear that Manish is such a caring wonderful husband. Maids are a headache. I also used to go through phases of depression becuase of my earlier maid. But you need to understand 1 thing, times have changed and you also need to change your mind set. The home belongs to both of you so there is no reason why you should feel guilty if Manish helps you in chores or if you are not able to do all the things that you want to do for him becuase of certain restraints which are beyond your control. Its time that you start un-learning what was expected out of a housewife. Marriage is about companionship. You do things and he helps you, isnt that a sign of a healthy marriage? You should rather keep loving him all the more than feel guilty. :-) I also keep asking Vinayak for help and he helps me too. I hardly cook dinner becuase I come home very tired. But I dont feel guilty becuase as a human I also can not possibly do all the things his mom must have done. Enjoy each other, cherish the lime water that he so loningly makes for you :-) Manish would love a loving wife more than a care taker "mummy" who comes to bed tired. :-) I can understand. Its so nice to hear that Manish is such a caring wonderful husband. Maids are a headache. I also used to go through phases of depression becuase of my earlier maid. But you need to understand 1 thing, times have changed and you also need to change your mind set. The home belongs to both of you so there is no reason why you should feel guilty if Manish helps you in chores or if you are not able to do all the things that you want to do for him becuase of certain restraints which are beyond your control.

Its time that you start un-learning what was expected out of a housewife. Marriage is about companionship. You do things and he helps you, isnt that a sign of a healthy marriage? You should rather keep loving him all the more than feel guilty. :-)

I also keep asking Vinayak for help and he helps me too. I hardly cook dinner becuase I come home very tired. But I dont feel guilty becuase as a human I also can not possibly do all the things his mom must have done.

Enjoy each other, cherish the lime water that he so loningly makes for you :-) Manish would love a loving wife more than a care taker “mummy” who comes to bed tired. :-)

]]> By: felinemusings http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-233 felinemusings Wed, 18 Jun 2008 13:09:41 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-233 @Snigs: M does share a lot of responsibilities at home, for example handling the laundry and settling up the mess that I usually create; we usually do our monthly groceries together and he does the once-a-week veggie shopping. He is typically caring and offers to help around the kitchen too! But I guess I am suffering more from the Indian "bahu" syndrome, where I feel obliged to do everything on my own in the house, and keep the man of the house, just as he was pampered when he was the son of his house. In the traditional mindset, people believe that as working woman we are only comfortably seated in ACs the whole day long, and using this as an alibi to shrug household work. The common repartee is that we housewives work so much around the house. A week back I was told by a housewife, that your man is very caring and helps because you are working; as a housewife she has to cater to providing each of her husband's needs - from undergarments, socks, towels to delicious meals, she has to serve him everything. Hearing such statements, make me guilty because most probably I am depriving my man of the pleasure that so many other men in India are destined to gain from matrimony. Its the guilt of not being able to manage all the household on my own, just because I dont have much time (and energy) left after work. Offlate I have also been facing housemaid related probs! Its as if the whole world has been conspiring against me - and hence this cranky blogpost. But amidst all the crankiness I can still vouch for the sincerity and concern of the man in my life .... this morning my utter irritability and crankiness at the behaviour of the housemaid, was subtly pacified by a gentle back rub by you know who ;-) And I do begin my day with lemon and honey in lukewarm water that is served by him. He gets up before me and opens the door for the maid, and does most of his own work like ironing his clothes. Infact he wants to help in the kitchen also, but I have had a major mental block to this (maybe an upbringing issue). So, I am not actually complaining against the hubby. Its more about my own mindset, society's misconceptions abt the life working women lead, and the kind of social boundaries that we create around our life and styles. And you are right when you tell me that men need to be told what to do!!! @Snigs: M does share a lot of responsibilities at home, for example handling the laundry and settling up the mess that I usually create; we usually do our monthly groceries together and he does the once-a-week veggie shopping. He is typically caring and offers to help around the kitchen too!

But I guess I am suffering more from the Indian “bahu” syndrome, where I feel obliged to do everything on my own in the house, and keep the man of the house, just as he was pampered when he was the son of his house. In the traditional mindset, people believe that as working woman we are only comfortably seated in ACs the whole day long, and using this as an alibi to shrug household work. The common repartee is that we housewives work so much around the house.

A week back I was told by a housewife, that your man is very caring and helps because you are working; as a housewife she has to cater to providing each of her husband’s needs - from undergarments, socks, towels to delicious meals, she has to serve him everything. Hearing such statements, make me guilty because most probably I am depriving my man of the pleasure that so many other men in India are destined to gain from matrimony. Its the guilt of not being able to manage all the household on my own, just because I dont have much time (and energy) left after work.

Offlate I have also been facing housemaid related probs! Its as if the whole world has been conspiring against me - and hence this cranky blogpost. But amidst all the crankiness I can still vouch for the sincerity and concern of the man in my life …. this morning my utter irritability and crankiness at the behaviour of the housemaid, was subtly pacified by a gentle back rub by you know who ;-) And I do begin my day with lemon and honey in lukewarm water that is served by him. He gets up before me and opens the door for the maid, and does most of his own work like ironing his clothes. Infact he wants to help in the kitchen also, but I have had a major mental block to this (maybe an upbringing issue).

So, I am not actually complaining against the hubby. Its more about my own mindset, society’s misconceptions abt the life working women lead, and the kind of social boundaries that we create around our life and styles.

And you are right when you tell me that men need to be told what to do!!!

]]> By: snigdha http://blog.felinemusings.com/2008/06/18/multiple-personality-disorder/#comment-232 snigdha Wed, 18 Jun 2008 12:40:32 +0000 http://blog.felinemusings.com/?p=333#comment-232 I can relate to this :-) but my state is not as demanding as yours. Like you feel contributing in the finances by being a career woman, Can you motivate the hubby enough to help you in the chores. Atleast when it comes to buying groceris, or simple things that he would not mind doing. Or may be he can start your day with a kiss and a bed tea (sugar free) :-) Ask him I am sure he will be happy to please you. Or may be you can ask him to treat you with Manish special Lunch/ Dinner on Sundays, atleast sometimes. :-) Men need to be told again and again and in simple statements what do we want. :-) Hope this helps... I can relate to this :-) but my state is not as demanding as yours. Like you feel contributing in the finances by being a career woman, Can you motivate the hubby enough to help you in the chores. Atleast when it comes to buying groceris, or simple things that he would not mind doing.

Or may be he can start your day with a kiss and a bed tea (sugar free) :-) Ask him I am sure he will be happy to please you.

Or may be you can ask him to treat you with Manish special Lunch/ Dinner on Sundays, atleast sometimes. :-)

Men need to be told again and again and in simple statements what do we want. :-) Hope this helps…

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