Feline Musings

Its that time of the year - when you look back and wonder how you managed to get yourself “welded” on a certain fateful day with a being that needs to be fed and pampered and then sprawls in front of the TV and finally retires to bed riding on waves of sonorous snoring! Yes, you guessed it right; I am celebrating my anniversary, and its just the first year! There will be many more such years, when on a November morning I will wake up to the nip in the air, an extra gray in my hair, and a moment of precise reflection on the past, before the smell of coffee will shake me up from my reverie.

Yes, one thing good about this marriage has been that I don’t have to make my morning coffee anymore. The husband has been trained to brew the perfect black coffee with a dash of cardamon and ginger. There are other things also that I have stopped making, for instance the wonderful Mohito that I concocted on my 6th nuptial anniversary. The reason for giving up on making the coffee and the Mohito is the same – a perpetual lethargy!

I have heard young mothers complain of chronic fatigue, but marriage seems to have brought this syndrome into my life. I have been driven to extreme tiredness by all the planning, prodding, pamper, placating, pleasing, and even pestering that married life entails. Sharing your time and space with someone is not an easy job, and after the first cup of coffee, you are supposed to take on the kitchen chores, single-handedly. Unless, you finally become hard-hearted enough to break the gender-mould and get the hubby to learn some basic chores.

And here’s a tip for all to be married or newly-married – the first year is the best time when you can play on the newfound love, and find ways and means to train him to be handy around the kitchen, instead of reviving his romance with the television, after you both have had a long and hard day at work. Yes, you need to find little ways out of that lethargy, and also to make the hubby more useful, within the first year, else it may be too late to make him change! Remember, the love will cool down, the romance fizzle, but the chores that he learns in the first year will remain lifelong. Sharing around the house will result in more time for caring for each other.

And this has been my greatest achievement as I celebrate our first anniversary that the hubby is prepared to help around the house, and I actually look on this aspect with great fondness and respect. And to be honest, if this blog was written by the hubby, he would be able to list similar things about me that have irritated him to the core, but he has bravely and boldly stood his ground. I have had my woes with the daily grind, and I have also had my own share of little pleasures in life just because of the man in my life.  Its ultimately about striking a balance, a little tweaking here and a little tweaking there, some tolerance, some acceptane, and ultimately about harmony in matrimony.

And on this note, I want to share the little wish for a lifetime that I sent across to the hubby on our first wedding anniversary:

“Another year to create precious memories together.

Another year to discover new things to enjoy about each other.

Another year to build a life rich in love and laughter.

Another year to strengthen a marriage that defines forever.”

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